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June 15, 2004 -- 3:42 PM
posted by alison

    and on a totally different train of thought (hence new message)

    Jeremy, I noticed no blatant gazing at my chest during my meeting.
    feet and legs, though, yes.
    so unless he likes feet, or didn't really want to talk to me... ...I dunno
    he seemed not to be at ease, a little bit flustered, a bit stumbling over his words
    Made me think of one of my cousins who didn't learn to talk until he was 4.
    I didn't think he was like that: seemingly shy and lacking confidence.
    I actually thought he was a fairly collected, put-together sort of person.
    maybe just today... maybe just me.
    I doubt he ever had a crush on me though.
    And man, was his office ever hot, stifling even.
    I think I like working in the cold basement, if that's the alternative.
    we've got like 3 more meetings together in the near future,
    and it almost felt like his thoughts were about
    how it'd be better to be pulling teeth than meeting with me.
    Or perhaps this first meeting was just awkward because neither
    of us knows the other even though we really should from highschool.

June 15, 2004 -- 3:32 PM
posted by alison

    Very interesting point, Jess. (and a good one at that too) Sure, changing language is a symptom of the alteration of our culture so perhaps that's why some of us refuse to use certain words... we're refusing to change in that way too. And, yes, bandaid solutions will never solve the problem, but they could bring attention to the problem. Like not wanting to say cunt because it's insulting, yet by discussing why you're choosing not to use it, you're working on the problem, maybe even fixing it.

    On that thought, it's interesting how the feminist movement is starting to "reclaim" words like cunt for their own purposes now, like the "N" word has been "reclaimed,"I think. (apparently what Inga Muscio's book Cunt is about)

June 15, 2004 -- 1:35 PM
posted by Jess

    twat doesn't bother me though.

    On an intellectual level, I'd have to agree with you Alison that gender
    (or race or sexual orientation) specific or originated insults are
    a bad thing as they add to the whole conception of Us and Them
    which isn't particularly useful, unless that's your goal, in which case
    I guess it is useful. But I don't particularly care.

    Insulting each other is pretty common, and calling someone a douchebag is
    kinda fun and that's not the problem. The problem is discrimation and
    the prejudice. No one cares that Beck calls Jer Frenchie, though that
    could be interpreted the same way.

    I think people concerned about equality should worry far less about the language
    friends use to insult (and bond) with each other and concentrate on the fact that
    gay people can't get married or that white men make more money than anyone else or
    all the other, less-easily measured realities. Changing langauge habits won't change
    those things and is ultimately a band-aid solution - "what'd you make me for dinner?"
    isn't much better than "what'd you make me for dinner, bitch?" And those changes have
    to happen on more personal, day-to-day efforts.

    As for Eric's suggestion that efforts to limit language should be deeply questioned:
    in general yes, in the case of these types of insults, I don't know. Language is a
    reflection of our culture and our culture is also influenced by our language so
    why not use language in order to influence the way we think? It's not that different from
    banning hate literature. But I guess you can make an arguement about that too.

June 15, 2004 -- 1:31 PM
posted by Par

Yes.

June 15, 2004 -- 1:11 PM
posted by Jere

    Hey anybody know leo's e-mail address?

June 15, 2004 -- 1:08 PM
posted by Par

June 15, 2004 -- 12:50 PM
posted by Jess



    I would disagree with the designation of "cunt" to be a unisex insult.
    At least I've never heard someone call a man or boy a cunt.
    Interestingly, that's the one sex/hygeiene/genital insult that I find really offensive.
    And I have nothing against cunts.

June 15, 2004 -- 12:06 PM
posted by eric

    whoops, i meant to say "mundane words DO NOT symbolize."

June 15, 2004 -- 12:05 PM
posted by eric

June 15, 2004 -- 11:32 AM
posted by eric

    this from Greenplastic.com
    According to the Mercury News, Jonathan Glazer, who directed the excellent videos for 'Street Spirit' and 'Karma Police' (as well as the remarkable Sexy Beast, is having a bit of trouble with his new film, Birth. Apparently, the film deals with Nicole Kidman falling in love with a 10-year-old whom she believes is the reincarnation of her dead husband, and some scenes involving her and the boy stripping and kissing in a bathtub (!) are not going over so well with New Line production heads.

    After already going through multiple rewrites and creative battles, New Line is considering simply pulling the plug on the $50 million film, Glazer's second.

    Read the entire article here.

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